By Enigheni Iwori
I remember when the movie “Love in Every Word” dropped last year and some women started to research on ways to speak and behave like the lead actress. The reason then was simple – to bag an ‘Odogwu’ you must be an ‘Achalugo’ – be soft, count your words and look like you walk on air. While these attributes are not bad in themselves, the idea that you must be a certain way to earn a man’s goodwill is the issue.
For example, you are an introvert but around friends and family, a chatterbox. What about your friend? She is bold and asserts herself wherever she may be or your boss that commands authority in a male dominated field. The point is, you will find your own person in diverse ways but definitely not by performing softness.
If you are naturally soft spoken, warm, or gentle, that is fine. But it should not be the benchmark for all women. You can be soft and gentle but also firm, decisive, curious, and resilient. Not to shrink into a version of womanhood just to make others comfortable.
Today, I need you to own every part of who you are. You are feminine.
Movies of the Week
· Monica (YouTube): After many years of enduring the antics of her manipulative and ungrateful family, a young woman realizes that being a firstborn daughter does not mean her worth should be tied only to what she can do for others. Her life changes for good when she finally decides to choose herself. This movie focuses on themes of betrayal, manipulation, black tax, and love.
· Son of the Soil (Netflix): A hotel staff sees something she should not have and gets killed. Consequently, her brother, a former soldier, uncovers a drug trafficking ring when he returns to Lagos to avenge her death. This crime drama focuses on themes of pain, loss, family, and revenge.
See you next week.
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